I am now going to make all sorts of statements and observations. Almost all of them are generalizations. I’m going to use phrases like “Women tend to do this,” “more or less,” or “In general.” There are a huge number of exceptions to these statements so I don’t want to hear about isolated cases which disprove what I’m about to say. Isolated cases are just that, isolated. I will also state that this essay deals with Attraction and Attraction only. The Relationship, which often hailed as the next step after Attraction, is a more complex beast, and as such will not be explored too thoroughly here. Now, on to the next part of this exercise.

I am a big fan of this movement going on called Fratire. Fraternists are of the opinion that some feminists took the idea too far, and that in addition to demanding equal rights, they also pushed for the dissolution of gender differences, lumping everyone into either an androgynous being, or for men to be put beneath women. Naturally many obnoxious male qualities are nixed. Heavy drinking, whistling at a hot babe, hot sauce, staring, smiling under certain circumstances etc… Fraternists believe that men and women are indeed quite different, and as such can never be lumped into the same category. Men are men, and we should embrace that fact rather than making apologies for being what we are. We don’t imply that men are better than women in any way, nor should they be treated with any less respect. We just feel that boys will be boys, and girls will be girls. Embracing that, and accepting our differences, rather than trying to deny them, is a healthier thing. We violently oppose those who try to make our manliness a negative thing, and usually will go out of our ways to be extra obnoxious to anyone who demands we make excuses for what we are.

Lets face it. Men and women are different. We have different hormones which affect our brains and bodies in different ways. Women menstruate, which will most of the time affects how they act and feel, and I’m not even going to begin to explain what goes on around pregnancy time, both before and after, since I honestly, have no inkling of the science involved. They don’t lose sight of logic. They know that most of the time they shouldn’t be feeling the negative emotions they feel when they are PMSing. Depression is natural phenomena for both genders except that it hits women more frequently due to the violent raging hormonal shifts they experience. I don’t claim to understand women, and there is no man alive who can honestly understand some of the things which to other women seem obvious.

Guys are less discrete than women. A guy will stare appreciatively without realizing it, and we like to hangout among boys, and drink beer, and tease people, and be assholes sometimes. That kind of behavior is fine so long as no one gets hurt… well seriously hurt anyway. We tend to get less depressed than women because we don’t have the bodies women do. I’m talking specifically about chemical depression, and not the kind related to stress. This is why we have, more often than not, been described as insensitive, or just plain stupid sometimes. Women tend to be more empathetic than guys. Ever wonder why more women have fooled around with women than guys with guys? It’s science. Our insecurities stem from simple things such as other people scoring more than we do, or being physically weaker than another. Simply put, we want to be manly men. And nothing is more unmanly than having sex with another man. On the other hand women having sex with each other is most womanly. At least to us.

The other major differences between men and women lie in the fact that women tend to be better suited to taking care of babies by virtue of the bond which is formed during pregnancy, birth, breast feeding, and overall more physical contact. It is something which no man can ever truly appreciate. We note that women tend to be smaller than men and overall usually have to work harder to achieve the strength which males seem to acquire naturally (Usually athletic females take testosterone and turn into Venus Williams, the true symbol of andogeneity). Since guys can’t get pregnant, it was up to us to take care of the perpetually pregnant wife (lets face it, throwing a spear at a wild boar when you’re 8 months pregnant can’t be easy, and early woman was almost perpetually cracking out babies. No birth control remember?). Therefore, natural selection dictated that we evolve in such a way which granted us better aptitudes to physical strength and speed. Since guys were stronger and not as well suited to raising children, we became the providers, and women the managers of that which we provided.

Then one day someone invented birth control. Suddenly society became such that women began to realize that there were certain rights which they should have been originally entitled to (Maybe it was the violent hormones of the birth control pill which made her this way). When we figured out a way to enjoy sex without having to worry about pregnancy, women became truly empowered because finally the consequences of choosing between a career and a family were not so unforgiving. I admit that a lot of people did indeed have to make severe mental readjustments to allow women into “man affairs,” and I am certainly not implying that it wasn’t necessary. Everyone fucked up good denying women these rights, but I see why it happened the way it did, even thought it was wrong. However, in spite of everything I have just said, the biggest argument for gender differences are plain and simple. Women like their men manly, and men… like women.

Most of the people I know both men and women, like having mates who are confident and proud (proud does not imply arrogant, and hurtful, although you could probably get away with a little of that if you’re playful about it). We like men and women who are strong and independent. A soppy drama queen (or king) is unattractive because of all the maintenance involved, and the fact that eventually, listening to someone complain all the time gets fucking annoying. That being said, should we not be proud of who and what we are? I am a man. Personally I’m fond of it. I get to pee standing up, I achieve quick easy orgasms, and I wanna fuck every hot woman in the world. I am constantly challenged by the mystery of the opposite sex, which I find extremely interesting. I doubt that I would enjoy myself nearly as much if women didn’t exist.

Women should be proud of being women because they tend to experience the more intimate relationship with the children, they crank out orgasms like machines (which we as men never completely figure out), and they enjoy sex more than we do (at least according to Greek mythology and my personal experience). If I am indeed wrong about this, it means that I’m really good in bed or that the women I’ve slept with sucked, and I didn’t know it (pun intended). Women also have this ability to empathize better than we do.

People always say that if you want to appear attractive to someone you need to appear confident. You can do this by accepting who and what you are, and/or by challenging the things you want to change about yourself without looking like a douche. I’m of the opinion that people are never perfect. Therefore, we are constantly trying to better ourselves in various ways. The point is that if you are going to be comfortable with who and what you are, you need to come to terms with your own sexuality and the differences between the opposite sexes. I like women who can defend themselves, and who are not completely dependent on me. I like that slight uncertainty about my relationship which allows me to never accidentally take my partner for granted. But more than anything I like a woman who is proud of being a woman.

Likewise, women don’t like guys who are weak and complainy all the time. They like their men manly. Should a man begin to exhibit some womanly traits like sensitivity or understanding too early in the attraction phase they more often than not become less interesting or relegated to friendship status (which basically means you are castrated). This prevents us from getting nookie from a chick who we found interesting enough to pursue. To quote the Okcupid online personality test, “A shoulder to cry on? Sure! A penis to hold? Never.” Everyone has that guy friend who complains all the time about the, “Oh we can’t date we are such good friends!” excuse. In woman talk that means, “You’ve proven to me that you don’t have a penis. I can’t fuck a dickless freak!”

Men and women also have different objectives. It is difficult to make generalizations about what it is we seek from an encounter with the opposite sex because such altruistic desires are governed by hormones, culture, and age. I think that by in large, most young men are seeking sex before a relationship. Shoot first, ask questions later. As guys get older, they start having difficulty managing to keep up with their former younger selves, and they usually try to focus on settling down. However no matter the man, if he has slept with many women it does nothing but boost his confidence. Some guys become so obsessed with the idea of poking as much as possible that they forget to consider the woman’s emotions in the equation. True this is not a nice thing to do, but it is manly isn’t it? It’s what women like? I guarantee that any woman who knows that a prospective fuck is not used to getting sex is going to wonder what is wrong with the gentleman in question. A dude who sleeps with an ugly chick, will be scrutinized. Likewise, a guy appearing too obvious about his sexual intentions is screwed (or not) since a woman also wants to feel special, and nothing says un-special like a dude who hits on everything that has boobs. On the other hand, the guy who manages to convince a girl that he is hitting on her when he could have anyone he wanted in the bar, is going to score. In essence, this “negative” masculine quality endures because women encourage us to be that way. Hell, even the homosexuals like their boyfriends manly! And they cheat on each other at least as much as we do.

With women, objective is completely subjective since the female orgasm is quite a bit more mental than the male one. I know some women who want to get as much tail as possible and wreak havoc among the hearts of man. I also know other more conservative types who want to score a great guy and dig in and hold on to them. I find it difficult to comment on the aims of women in relationships since every one of them seems to want something different, and go about it in different ways.

In many cultures women still don’t have the same social status as men, and a woman is pressured to keep her sexual integrity as intact as possible. Some dudes like their women inexperienced so women do everything they can to stay that way. I think that in North America and Great Britain, the sexual revolution has made women more open to the idea of a random bang, so more power to the dudes out there. In these cultures the girl who screws around a lot is not necessarily unattractive. Irregardless of the aims however, in any culture women are attracted to men who are manly. If a guy is not acting like a guy, a woman will get turned off. A woman who is acting womanly or manly, we want to poke at least once (unless she’s still ugly after five rounds). Should pokage occur or not, it is at this stage, after Attraction, that we decide weather or not subsequent encounters are worth the effort.

Bottom line, men and women are different. There are reasons that this difference is perpetuated just as there are reasons as to why these differences will perpetuate. The hardcore angry feminist will never win simply because women like us the way we are, and woman will never be as manly as we are for biological reasons. We are the way we are for a reason. Embrace it and rejoice for there is nothing sexier in this world than a confident member of the opposite sex. This is perhaps the one thing that we have in common between the two genders.